It can be difficult to trust ourselves. In any given moment there are a myriad of decisions to be made and people pulling us in different directions. Within this environment, we can easily become anxious or overwhelmed.

On an energetic level, once we shift into this state of confusion/lack of clarity, we have a tendency to move into our upper chakras. What this means is that our energy body begins to pull upwards. This leaves us feeling ungrounded and “out of body” even though physically our bodies continue to move us through life. The more we continue to operate from our upper energy body, though, the more disconnected we become. Our anxiety may become more acute, our sense of overwhelm can increase and we may even begin to experience physical symptoms of distress as our bodies call out for our attention.

At this point, it can become difficult to trust our decisions and/or know which direction feels right to us. When our mind is running the show, we are given lots of facts, figures, shoulds and coulds, but these may only add to our confusion. And when the body feels that something is off, it will send you signals in an attempt to grab your attention away from your mind. It wants you to reconnect with it; it wants to help you make a more fully informed decision.

The mind is a beautiful thing. If we aren’t careful, though, our mental activity can get off kilter. It’s very helpful to find a way to allow our mental body/energy to find balance and create harmony with the emotional/feeling body.

Here is a tool that I teach a lot of my clients and that has proven helpful to them as well as to myself. I’d love to give credit for it where credit is due, though I can’t fully do that in this case. This came through one of my client’s guides many moons ago. With gratitude to that spirit that shared this with us, I pass it along to you.

1)     Take a moment to get settled and quiet in a chair or lying down on your back with your stomach, solar plexus and heart centers open.

2)     Turn your attention to your breath. On your in-breath, feel your belly rise and expand. Let your breath begin in your stomach and then rise through your diaphragm and then lungs.

3)     Allow your out-breath to be at least as long as your in-breath and feel your tummy fall as you release and let go.

4)     Do about 10 rounds of this breathing.

5)     Next, turn your attention to your body. This type of breathing connects you back into your core and will help you to feel more embodied immediately. (This is great to do anytime you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed.)

6)     Start at your toes and move your way up, just noticing and feeling your body. If any judgments arise, gently release them and return to the breath and the scan.

7)     When you feel calm and centered, ask your body to show you what “yes” feels like. This may come as a sense of expansion, a smile, an opening of the heart or in another way that feels good to you. If it doesn’t come immediately, that is okay. Just breathe and stay centered. You may need to give it a few minutes or try again at a later time. For many of us, being fully embodied is a new experience and we may need to have space to explore it further before understanding it fully.

8)     After you have your affirmative response, ask your body to show you “no.” My body shows me this by constricting in the heart center. Some feel it in their belly or head. Any of the responses can shift and change as well, though the quality of them will tend to remain the same.

9)     You can also ask your body to show you a neutral response, as oftentimes that is the case as in a situation like this: “How would an apple for a snack be for me?” If you have no sensitivities to an apple, it may show up in a neutral, if-you-want-it sort of way.

10)  When you are finished, turn back into your breath and send thoughts of gratitude to your body for supporting you.

11)  If you use essential oils ( I recommend only high quality oils such as Young Living – follow recommendations), the following oils can be highly supportive in this process:

a.     Fennel helps the Self reconnect with the body and to pick up the subtle messages from it, allowing us to find our inner sense of integrity and align with it.

b.     Ginger assists in developing a deep and authentic sense of empowerment that creates an almost warrior like commitment to living in personal integrity.

c.      Patchouli supports us in becoming fully present in the physical body and to find new appreciation and a sense of empowerment from it.

This exercise can be used for just about any question from the one above to the really big ones. As we practice it, it will become almost automatic and you begin to feel more empowered and aligned in the decisions that we make. And remember: We can use that breathing method to help support and calm us at any time and any place. And it’s especially great before bed, along with a little Lavender oil!


Meditating on this mandala may also help you to connect to your inner alignment!