Musings on Being a Badass

I did something super badass the other day.

The thing is, though ~ I almost didn’t do it.

I was given the task ~ along with about 20 other women ~ of breaking a pine board in half with just our hands. We wrote the limiting belief that is holding us back from creating more success in our lives on the side we were to break through and on the other side we marked down what we truly desire.

I felt pretty calm about the whole thing and wasn’t worried about whether or not I could do it until we actually got down to doing it. I watched my mentor, Monica Shah, lead and then a few others follow. Witnessing so many powerful women really focus and bust through the boards was inspiring. It was joyous. Their exhilaration was palpable.

It was also intimidating. I had started to worry about whether or not I could do it. I have a weak wrist from years of injuries and bartending, and I began to worry about hurting it. When it was my turn, I stepped up and I lined myself up and I struck at it.

Nothing happened.

I hit it again and then again. Still nothing and my wrist hurt from the repeated force against the board.

I stepped back, unsure of what to do. My injury was the result of not listening to my body when I was younger. For years, I had ignored its cues and pushed through pain, both emotional and physical. Even with years of healing, I’m still unraveling some of the repercussions from that.

I also knew that there was something that I was missing. I was aware that it wasn’t about force and that my apprehension was getting in my way.

I was stuck.

That was when this beautiful community of women reached out and lifted me up. My soul sister, Elicia, suggested I try with my other hand and encouraged me to play with a different mindset. She saw into my heart ~ as she does ~ and sensed that I needed an out-of-the-box solution. Another dear friend and colleague (and exceptional body worker), Susan, assured me that she could correct anything in my wrist that needed support. More girlfriends rallied and Big Bob, the man who facilitates this work, was called to assist.

He showed me what I had been missing. I was lacking force from my lower body, trying to push through with my hand, without accessing the simultaneous strength and thrust of my legs to facilitate the process.

I tried again and still I missed. By now, all eyes were on me.

Oh the beautiful and divine irony of it all! The limitation I was breaking through had to do with success and fear of failure with eyes upon me.

But Bob encouraged and inspired me, and the women around me cheered me on.

Then, as if it were nothing, I knocked that damn board and belief right in half.

I was greeted with hugs and I cried and I felt so so so supported. My wrist hurt less when I allowed myself to surrender and move through the belief. Susan worked some magic on it and it actually feels better than it did prior to the board breaking. (Imagine that!) Another Lady Love, Ina ~ channeler extraordinaire of The Alchemists, captured this great shot of my personal victory.

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When I was young, I wouldn’t do anything I didn’t think I could master. I’ve spent years healing that sense of not-enoughness. It still rears its head at times and I thank god that when it does these days, I have people in my life that will support me and show me my potential.

I have opened myself up and allowed myself to be vulnerable ~ real honest-to-goddess, authentic vulnerability ~ in a way that has come full circle so many times.

When I show my heart, others hold it up for me to see.

What a treasure.

Leave a Reply 8 comments

Kevin - February 1, 2016 Reply

Awesome, Janet! Congratulations on your breakthrough. I appreciate your openness and vulnerability. You’re very inspiring 🙂

    Janet Raftis - February 1, 2016 Reply

    Thank you, Kevin! I appreciate your kind words!

Liz Lee - February 1, 2016 Reply

Wow! I got goosebumps thinking of that moment the wood split for you. This is so inspiring for me on many levels. Thank you for sharing!

    Janet Raftis - February 1, 2016 Reply

    I’m so glad! Thank you, Liz!!! Big hug!

Barbara J Hopkinson - February 2, 2016 Reply

Awesome, thank you for sharing Janet! That is almost exactly what happened to me, minus the hand injury – instead my lack of belief in my strength/ability. But on the 6th try, I broke it as well and cheered & felt both exhilarated & supported – what a night! Congratulations!

    Janet Raftis - February 2, 2016 Reply

    Thank you! It was so great when you broke the board as well! It was a wonderful experience; I am so glad to have shared it with such amazing women.

Debbie - February 3, 2016 Reply

Loved this! Feel like I was right there with you cheering from the stands. So proud of you.

    Janet Raftis - February 3, 2016 Reply

    Thank you, Debbie! I love you and so appreciate you! xoxo

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