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Working With Goddesses and the Divine Feminine

Working With Goddesses and the Divine Feminine 

How about a little game of, “Did you know?”

In 2016, the US almost had its first female president - yes, first! For over 200 years, our nation has been led by men.

As of May 2018, there are only 24 female CEOs on the Forbes 500 list - that's just under 5% of the total list. (1)

Women accounted for just 17% of all the directors, executive producers, producers, writers, cinematographers, and editors who worked on the top-grossing 250 domestic films of 2016. (2)

Only 20% of the U.S. Congress is comprised of women. (3)

Thanks to the Women's March and the movement to expose and change the male/female disparities in our world, you may have heard some of these statistics. But have you thought about the fact that this isn't just part of our financial, political, physical world? Nope, the masculine has also been dominating our spiritual and energetic world... until now!

We are in the midst of a shift that goes far beyond a fight for equality in our physical world - a divine feminine reclamation. Uranus is moving into Taurus for the first time in 84 years - and this is going to shake things up for the next several years! One of the things that this is bringing about is a return to the earth, and as we return to the earth, we return to the divine feminine - coming back to procreative nurturing.

As we go through this process of reclaiming the feminine, nurturing, nourishing aspects of ourselves, our procreative aspects, the part of us women that really connects us to the process of creation and caring for that which we have created. When we work with the divine feminine, we really magnify the impact of that throughout the entire world. And that's one of the reasons that I love to work with the feminine energy, I feel its ripple effect.

So, who are these divine feminine women? They are the energetic, spiritual beings who are with us in the same way that angels are with us and the ascended masters - who some are female, but a lot are male. Some are goddess energies that we are very familiar with who have never really manifested here on earth, but we have so many other women who have rocked the physical world and gone on and become very powerful presences in the collective consciousness that we can work with. 

Check out the video below to learn more about these divine energies and how you can connect with them!

If you work with creative energy, working with the divine feminine is so powerful because it is the creative life force. Women are the energies that procreate - we carry, we gestate, we nurture and nourish, and then we birth - we bring into the world. And so I have found that when I am creatively stuck, if I'm feeling like the words aren't flowing or whatever it happens to be, I will work with the divine feminine energies to support me in opening that up again. This is just one of the many foundational tools I use to connect to and receive the benefits of connecting with the energetic field.

I'd love to hear how you connect to the divine feminine - let's connect in the comments​ under the video.

Sending you so much love,

1. Fortune.com
2. AmericanProgress.org
3. The Washington Post

Spirit Animals! Who They Are, How to Work with Them & What They’re Trying to Tell You

Spirit Animals! Who They Are, How to Work with Them & What They're Trying to Tell You

If you’re like a lot of people, you’ve probably taken a quiz on Facebook that promised to reveal your Spirit Animal. Spirit Animals have become pretty popular in the last couple of years due to mentions in pop culture, but the concept of Spirit Animals goes back thousands of years!

Let’s take a look at the history of Spirit Animals from LonerWolf.com…

“The concept of ‘Spirit Animals’ draws its origins from ancient Animistic and Totemistic beliefs about the world and our connection to it.

Totemism, a system of belief practised by the Native American Indian people, and the Australian Aboriginal people for example, incorporates the notion that each human being has a spiritual connection to another physical being (e.g. a plant or animal).

Animism, on the other hand, is more of a worldview held by many Buddhist, Shinto, Pagan and Neopagan groups of people, that all plants, animals and objects have spirits.”

Spirit Animals are just like other spiritual, celestial beings that are around us and here to help or guide us. Connecting with the energy of your Spirit Animal is similar to working with with angels or ascended masters or fairies. Just like the angels and other spiritual beings, each Spirit Animal comes through differently and has their own unique spiritual vibration. And just like other guides, you can have more than one Spirit Animal.

Check out the video below to learn more about Spirit Animals, what some of my Spirit Animals are, how you can discover your own, AND get a mini-reading!

spirit animals

Have you ever noticed that a specific animal keeps showing up in your life? Maybe you see a snake every time you go hiking, or a deer every time you step outside to have your morning coffee, or maybe you always seem to have a hawk following you on your drive in to work. Start paying attention to the animals that show up for you and if you feel a pull or connection to them. If you do, take some time to sit with or meditate on it and ask the spirit what message it has for you.

Now, I know this might seem a little overwhelming if you’re new to connecting to your intuition and working with spirits, but don’t let that scare you or keep you from diving in to find your Spirit Animal or to work with them. A great way to get started is with oracle cards, they can be a wonderful way to tap into this concept and start working with it (in the video I mention my favorite Animal Spirit deck from
The Wild Unknown, I highly recommend it!).

Know that your Spirit Animal can change and you can have more than one! When you think you might have an idea who your Spirit Animal is, before you jump over to Google, I recommend that you take a few moments to sit with and meditate on the animal you feel you may be connecting with and just check in to see how that energy feels for you.

When you’re ready,
click here for a fun website that tells you more about the meanings of different Spirit Animals.

I’d love to hear who your Spirit Animal is - leave a comment under the video to share and ask any questions.

Sending you so much love!

Energy Vampires and How to (NOT) Deal With Them

Energy Vampires and How to (NOT) Deal With Them 

I want to talk about energy vampires… If you’re a sensitive person, you probably immediately know what is meant by that, but for everyone else, an energy vampire is somebody who is emotionally stunted in some way, shape, or form - someone who believes that the world really revolves around them. 

Sensitive people seem to enter into relationships with energy vampires a lot. The danger with this is that energy vampires are people who, because of whatever has happened to them, can't seem to sustain their own life force energy. And so they will pull energy from other people and it really does feel like energy is being sucked out of you - exactly what you would expect from a vampire.

Here’s the tricky thing about energy vampires - they are actually very intuitive and have a sixth sense for detecting people who are nurturing and caring, those who seemingly have energy to give away, and they seek out relationships with those individuals.

Energy vampires can be found in every area of your life - they could be somebody that you're in a friend, it can be somebody you work with, it could be a neighbor - if you start thinking about it, it’s likely that you can identify at least one of these people in your life. It’s important to remember that all relationships are an exchange of energy. What you need to evaluate is if your relationships have equality in the exchange of energy - if not, you may be in a relationship with an energy vampire.

Energy Vampires and How to (NOT) Deal With Them

Here are 5 ways to know if you are dealing with an energy vampire: 

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    They blame others for their problems and refuse to take personal responsibility.
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    You feel drained after spending time with them. 

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    They hold you back from personal growth because they feel threatened by it.
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    You end up feeling guilty that you aren't doing enough for them.
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    They pull away or ghost you if they aren't getting what they want from you.

As I mention in the video, you don’t always have to cut ties with people you identify as energy vampires. It is possible to maintain a relationship with individuals, it simply requires that you become aware, use your tools, and create healthy boundaries that will ensure your energy isn’t depleted when you engage with them.

Are you struggling with an energy vampire right now? I’d love to help! Leave a comment under the video and tell me about it.

Sending you so much love!

Are you psychic or crazy?!

Are you psychic or crazy?!

Developing a deeper a connection with your intuitive gifts is an exciting journey. But when you’re just getting started, you might experience some things that make you step back and ask…

“Am I crazy!?!?”

And once you realize and embrace that you are not crazy, but simply tapping into your intuition, the next question that comes up is…

“Am I hearing Spirit, or is this just my ego?”

In the last few years, I’ve noticed that there are more and more people raising their own consciousness, awareness, and intuition, and because there are so many people stepping into this, it creates a wave that helps activate and open up others. It’s as if a mental light is starting to go off and something is coming alive inside of us - but for most of us, this is not something that is talked about very much in everyday life. And when connecting with source or receiving messages from Spirit is new to you, it’s normal to feel like things are coming out of left field.

So I’m here to assure that you are not crazy - and you are not alone! There are other people going through the same process and experience. A lot of times, just naming the process - or identifying that you are an empath or sensitive - can be hugely comforting.

I want to help calm your concerns and support you in discovering how you can tell if you are engaging with your ego or receiving messages from Spirit. Check out the video below to hear some ways you can tell which is happening for you… 

Are you psychic or crazy?!

As I mention in the video, here are some things that can help you quickly identify if you’re working with ego or Spirit:

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    Does the “hit” feel clean?
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    Do you feel like you’re trying to manipulate the information?
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    Did the information come in a way that is different than how you would have expressed it?

Have you had moments where you weren’t sure if it was ego or Spirit? I’d love to hear about in the comments under the video.

Sending you so much love!

What is your body trying to tell you?

What is your body trying to tell you?

Has anyone ever told you to, “Suck it up”, “Toughen up”, or “Push through it” when you expressed physical pain or discomfort?

While it may seem like this is harmless advice meant to help us become “stronger”, the reality is, this teaches us to ignore the cues our body is sending us. And when we ignore these cues, we no longer embody our physical expression and begin to move into our upper chakras - especially those of us who are sensitive or have experienced trauma. As we move into our upper chakras, we tend not to notice our body or inhabit it as fully.

When we experience pain and discomfort, there is often an intuitive expression that is trying to speak to us through our body. So when we push away these physical sensations, we’re shutting down the line of communication we have with our body and blocking the message it is trying to share with us.

How do we make sure that we acknowledge the cues from our body and how do we know what they are trying to tell us?

It’s not as difficult as you may think and in the video below, I share some great tools to help you cultivate an awareness and trust with your body.

Click here to watch now!

What Is Your Body Trying To Tell You

When you start using these tools and connecting more with your body, you’ll notice that you’re really in integrity with yourself.

So, take some time today to tune into your body - how does it feel? Are you feeling any pain or discomfort? Where do you feel it? When do you feel it? What might your body be trying to tell you?

I’d love to hear how it goes - make sure to leave a comment under the video so we can connect there.

Sending you much love!

Staying Empowered While Navigating Social Media

Have you been feeling overwhelmed by the intensity of social media and the news? When there is a lot of highly charged energy being passed around, social platforms it can create anxiety where there used to be fun. This is an especially challenging situation for empaths, as we are not only experiencing our own pain, confusion and emotions, but we are also tuning into the energy of the collective emotional consciousness right now, and in doing so, we are tapped into the feelings of others.

But many of us want to understand and follow what’s happening…Now more than ever, many of us feel the need to not be ignorant of what’s occurring in the world around us.

So how can we reconcile this for ourselves? With a little awareness and discipline, it is possible to remain inspired and aligned while also being engaged and informed.

A good starting point is to tune into how we feel before engaging with social media. If you notice that you are feeling tired, upset or anxious, try another activity that can shift your mood before you get on. The experience that you have on social media is directly relational to what you take to it. And a lot of the time, we’re not even aware of what we are bringing to the interaction.

Activities such as dancing, meditating, walking in nature and laughing can shift our energy powerfully. If you do something uplifting and then still feel down though, try honoring that feeling. What is really going on? See if you can pinpoint the emotion or energy that wants to be released and express it. Follow that up with doing something to further nurture yourself. The important thing here is to listen to yourself and honor what your body, mind and spirit are wanting.

If when we tune in, we notice that the desire for social media is connection, we can call a friend, make a tea date or take a walk with someone. If it’s boredom, what can you do instead to fuel the desire to be inspired?

And if you feel that you do truly want to jump on social media, gauge yourself as you go: How are you feeling? What links are you clicking on?

In the recent past, our social media feeds were likely filled with a lot less political commentary and news than there is now. Not only is the information difficult to take in on a personal level, we are also being exposed to the super charged emotions of our family and friends who are posting them.

Here are a few guidelines that can help us to navigate social media and the news in a way that feels self-empowering. We always have a choice as to how we interact with our environment and what we choose to take in!

1. We can choose which news sources feel the best to us. There is a lot of purposefully inflammatory news being passed around right now, but we can opt to only interact with the ones that feel the most stable and unbiased and we can use them with awareness.

2. Setting boundaries for ourselves is an act of self-love! We can schedule our time on social media and we can pay attention to our bodies and what is coming up for us as we do so. When we start to feel tired or drained, we can practice loving self-discipline by finding something nourishing to do away from the computer or phone.

3. It’s important for us to be mindful and express our emotions. It’s helpful for us to feel the emotions as they arise: cry, yell, stomp our feet, laugh…Whatever comes up is ours and real and valid.

4. When we finish reading, we can further support ourselves by disconnecting from the energy of the news and the collective when we are finished. Imagine cutting a cord with the platform you are on and anyone whose energy you may have taken on and then take a few moments to bring yourself back into your body and breathe mindfully.

5. Engage in what you love. It  is supportive for empaths to balance the days out with creative activities and things that are inspiring…things that help us to remember our aliveness.

6. We have the power to tailor our social media experience. Unfollow friends or family whose posts are triggering to you and leave any groups that feel intense. Add in some fun groups that you could be interacting in that would help you to feel inspired and connected and spend more time in those.

When we remember that social media can work for us rather than against us, we regain our sense of empowerment in sometimes difficult situations. As you navigate these new waters, stay in the awareness that we get to choose our experience. Holding that awareness alone can be a powerful catalyst for a new type of social media interaction.

I’d love to hear about any tools that you use to manage social media! Jump down to the comments section to share or to ask any questions you may have.

Sending you much love!

2 Releasing the Bondage of Toxic Shame

Recently it’s been brought to my attention that my “openness” can be uncomfortable to others at times. It provoked an interesting reflection for me, since I spent most of my life buried in secrets.

I remember even as a young child thinking that I needed to keep aspects of myself hidden away as sharing them would show me to be the less-than-perfect human that (of course) I was.

There were always little droplets of shame dusting my existence, since the very beginning of me.

So when I was raped, I knew right where to place it. I took the event, twisted it around in my mind to try to maintain some sense of power in the face of this devastating situation, and then I tucked an entire tome of self-blame and denigration right there along with the rest of it.

I buried it amidst a pile of secrecy and I left it there and I fed it. Each and every day, I added at least a little more. Sometimes I added a lot. Even when I shared my dirty little secrets, it always started with, “Don’t tell anyone this, but…”

The fear of judgment ruled my shame and bled into all areas of my life.

And for a long, long time nothing seemed to help it. I knew that I wanted it to leave me. I was aware that it was harming me, but I struggled and struggled to release it. It wasn’t until I did the deeper work of releasing the repressed emotions along with a lot of energy and body work that I began to feel myself swimming up to the surface.

Once this happened, the shame released. The bundle of emotions that had kept the shame locked into place had moved and with that a tidal wave of energy poured out of me. The place that had been full of all that fear and self-judgment became a beautiful and open space, a neutral vacuum ready to be filled. I knew that I had the say in what went in there and I did not want to go back to the space I had been occupying for most of my life. That had NOT worked for me and I was ready for something new.

I also knew that I wanted to help others who also felt locked in pain, trauma, toxic shame and fear and that I couldn’t do that unless I openly and unapologetically revealed myself to others.

It was scary to very publicly share my experiences. Once on the Internet, always on the Internet. I was aware of this. I knew that the words could not be retracted. I had a few people in my life who really worried about this for me and that was challenging as well.

But I could not repress it again and I couldn’t help others experiencing this same pain if they couldn’t find me. They had to be able to identify me. It was my choice how that could play out: I could put on a modern day Scarlet Letter or I could speak with the voice of someone who had claimed her healing and her power. I chose the latter.

Being open feels natural and normal to me now. I don’t keep secrets and I don’t feel shame in the way that I used to. I don’t share every aspect of my life with every person I meet, but I do get to be authentic and true and genuine about who I am and my experience here in this lifetime.

And honestly…It feels good. I am so much lighter and I breathe so much more freely. I don’t have to cover things up or pretend or hide. I just AM. At times it’s uncomfortable and hard, but mostly it’s freeing. I can just show up and be and hold my space in a way that allows others to also be vulnerable with me. My openness gives others permission to be open too if they choose to accept that invitation. And I like that. It keeps it simple.

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The Alchemy of Shift

What do you get when you connect seven courageous women, two loving and compassionate facilitators/healers, a nurturing and supportive healing space and Costa Rica? Pura Vida transformation!

“Elicia, Janet, (Doug and the Vida Asana team) gently held us in a structured, supportive healing space in a Costa Rica paradise. We clarified our hopes with personal intentions, fed our bodies nourishing food, bonded by witnessing each other’s vulnerability and shared courage through tears, laughter, yoga and cathartic meditation and rituals.

 Elicia’s wise, earthy calm and Janet’s spiritual insights create a generous, focused, harmonious coaching partnership. ‘Your symptoms are a gift’ resonated in truth as we unpicked avoidance habits and messages in our suppressed feelings.

Their confidence in the alchemy of listening to, processing, honoring and respecting the un-met needs of our inner children and nurturing their responsible (and angry) expression worked quickly for our collective good. 

I won’t say it was easy to explore hurts and give painful feelings a voice, but it was worth the journey. I have come away with awareness, a new mantra, tools, faith in myself to heal and beautiful, life-long supportive friends. ~ Anna

There is true magic in a connection forged through honest and intimate transference of emotions and experience, the kind that occurs when defenses are dropped and hearts are raised…an intimate camaraderie of sorts that activates our highest potential and allows for individual and shared catharsis.

Reaching down and into the core of our being to reveal that which we thought too painful to face and having it met with compassion and love by others is healing in itself. Beyond that, we are able to see the many ways in which we are the same, the manner in which the very fabric of our lives intersects and intertwines from experiencing similar pain, even when reached through different avenues.

This work with Elicia Miller has become a true love ~ one that transforms me right along with everyone else.  It elevates and inspires and I can’t wait to do it again (September!!!).

“I’ve been lucky enough to do quite a bit of inner personal work on myself in my life. I have to say that this retreat was the catalyst for some of deepest healing I’ve been able to do yet. Janet and Elicia provided such a safe space and environment that I felt safe to work on some very uncomfortable issues that have been wanting my attention for years.  I feel alive and peaceful in a new way and I credit it to the retreat: the material, the environment, the group synergy and Janet and Elicia’s facilitating skills. I’m a new woman.”  ~ Natha

“My week at the retreat was more than I ever could of imagined. I have been in talk therapy on and off for 15 years and honestly accomplished more and saw my “stuff” more clearly in just seven days. The power of the retreat is in the gentle guidance of Elicia and Janet, the power of a group of strong women also searching for self empowerment and the beauty of Costa Rica. I am truly grateful for such a life changing experience.” ~ Kelly


“This week was transformational and inspiring. Not only did I feel the shift in my own being, but I could sense it in each woman there. I cannot thank you all enough for what I gained through this experience. ” ~ Amy

 “An inspiring and life changing experience…” ~ Marva

To learn more about our retreat, click HERE.

CONTACT ME if you are interested in possibly attending our September 2016 retreat!


Embracing the Skeleton in the Closet

On the physical plane, the body is the home.

Not only is it the residence within which we dwell, it is a physical reflection of our experience here. Every cell, every gene shares a message with us about our experience, our passions, our fears, our everything…

We were wired to have emotional experiences ~ not just the happy and carefree ones, but also the sad, scary and angry ones.

But somewhere along the way, most of us discovered that it wasn’t safe to feel certain ways…We were taught that to cry was to be a baby, to be afraid was to be a sissy, and that to feel empathy or compassion was to be weak.

In the face of taunting, teasing and even physical or emotional violence, we may have started to push it all down and away. Many of us have felt that the only way to get through our lives was to try to pretend or act as if it never happened. And in the moment, it may have been. When there is trauma or abuse, compartmentalizing or ignoring the pain may in fact be the best coping and survival mechanism available at the time.

And so some of us may manage to forget it. But our bodies never forget. Even when we push our emotions down and away, they stay with us until we acknowledge them and listen to their messages.

Every emotion has a story that yearns to be heard. And when we don’t pay attention, that story starts to play more and more loudly in the background.

It may start as anxiety or an upset stomach or an injury. We may begin to lose sleep and wonder what is wrong. Ultimately, if we still insist on not listening, if we instead continue to numb ourselves or merely treat the symptoms, our bodies will speak up even more loudly.

Illness and disease have an emotional and metaphysical meaning that underlies their manifestation. When we can learn to live more fully present ~ to experience our bodies in a new and empowering way ~ and access the repressed emotions, we can begin to live our lives in a new way.

We can begin to live with a sense of flow, trusting ourselves and our surroundings. We can begin to know true joy ~ a sense of profound contentedness that is not dependent on that outside of us, but that instead rises up from within.

We can learn to intuitively know how to handle life and feel confident in how we do so.

It’s all within our reach. The only requirement is that we be willing to go deep within ourselves in a way that is honest and fearless.

I was terrified to do this work. I tried every way possible to bypass it: I did tons of energy work, I was hypnotized, I did yoga, I meditated, I read self-help books, I talked to counselors and more. It was all very helpful and it all has held a beautiful space in my healing journey.

But one piece was missing and it was an integral piece. I was talking around and skirting the repressed emotions, but I wasn’t feeling them. It wasn’t until I went into the deepest and darkest corners of my closet and pulled up all that I had stashed away that I experienced profound and lasting shift.

It may sound too challenging or too scary, but once we open the door to the closet and actually look at the skeletons, we see that they are an offering. Within each of them is a gift, a key, to a deeper understanding of our soul, our purpose, our how and why for being here. Each bone is a physical and spiritual inheritance, provided just for us.

Skeleton Praying

Skeleton Praying by William Cheselden

Are you ready to embrace your skeleton in the closet? Join me and Elicia Miller for our Tropical Immersion Healing Retreat in Costa Rica. Click HERE for details!

Essential oils can be a great tool to help release emotions and to support you in your process. To help with repressed emotions, both Geranium and Release (a blend from Young Living) work wonderfully! I’m happy to share how you can use them! Contact me at: janet@janetraftis.com.