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1 Dimmer Switch

I just got back from spending three intense and inspiring days with my business mentor, Monica Shah. Every time I connect with her, I shift, change and grow in ways I didn’t even know were possible.

I had so so so many aha moments over those three days, and perhaps one of the most significant shifts is around how I show up in the world.

I noticed that I have a tendency to put a certain amount of myself out into the world and that once I reach this self-conceived limit, I start to pull back. This measurement seems to hold true regardless of what it is I’m sharing (or not sharing as the case may be). It could be a particular aspect of myself, a program, a service, my life in general or a component of my growth.

I hesitate out of fear of being too much. And that subconscious belief has held me back from sharing my gifts more fully with others. It has held me back from service and it has held me back from receiving as well.

I’ve been shining my light at about 65% capacity.

I don’t want to do that anymore. I have spent years getting to the truth of who I am so that I can show myself as authentically as possible in any given moment. But authenticity only rings fully true if it is without censor, without dimming. It can only show up as true when fully accepted, honored and shined.

And so as I move into a New Year for opportunity and growth, I am turning inward in search of how I can really grow. Growth doesn’t happen without expansion, which means that I must be willing to shine more brightly rather that to keep the dimmer switch on.

I’m still reflecting on what my word for the New Year might be. This year’s was ACTIVATION and the previous one was EXPANSION. Both proved to be extremely powerful for me. And the energy of both still fit…Despite holy moly growth with both, there is more waiting for me to unveil, unravel, unfold…And I feel inspired to go deep and go big.

And what about you? Where do you hold back and how can you shine that light a little more brightly? I’d love to hear from you in the comment section below.

I love you and I’m grateful for you!


How to Set a Kick Ass New Year’s Intention

I used to grimace at the thought of a New Year’s resolution, mostly because they usually failed. Typically, my resolution involved giving up a vice, so sometimes I just ignored it all together.  I didn’t want to actually make a commitment to my health and that it what I thought it meant. It was always hollow, a wispy wouldn’t-it-be-nice thought that sounded good in the moment. I only participated in this ritual because I thought I should ~ not because it felt good to me.

My resolutions were never sincere.

They never came from the heart. They always came from the head, and so I never connected with them.

In recent years I’ve begun intentionally working with intentions and I’ve had much better results.

In fact, the manifestation of my last year’s intention is still blowing my mind.

It IS possible to create dynamic and powerful change as we move into a new year. It’s really just a question of how we’re going to go about doing so.

Last year, some girlfriends and I each chose a word that we wanted to embrace and embody for the upcoming year. (This idea came from this blog post that one of my friends had read.) We shared the words and we opened our hearts to the why of them. One of my friends even made us cute bracelets with our words.

I chose EXPANSION because it captured how I wanted to FEEL in all areas of my life:
I wanted my business to grow (and holy crap did it ever!).

I wanted my personal relationships to expand ~ and now I have an even wider circle of loves around me.

I wanted my heart to open and to hold more love. It cracked wide open so many times this past year that I lost count.

Did I lose some things along the way? Yes.

The energies in my life that weren’t up for expansion dropped away to make room for more growth. In some cases, this was sad. In others, it was welcomed.In all, it was ultimately fulfilling.

And I grew and I grew.

I focused on this word and I invited it into every corner of my life. I asked Spirit to help me, and my girlfriends supported my vision and held me accountable. I imagined what my life would look like in an expanded state and how it would feel

I was really honest with myself. 

When I struggled, I asked myself: What can I do here to grow? How can I push myself to move through this and open up to more possibility?

I asked EXPANSION to support me and challenge me and push me to embrace it.

It was hard. It was scary. It was gorgeous.

I’m not sure yet what my new word will be, but you better believe I’ll have one. And I’m going to savor it just like I did this last one. Expansion is still living and breathing within me and because I incorporated and integrated it so fully, it always will be.  I can’t wait to do the same again.

In fact, this year, I’m going to add a little ceremony to my intention setting as well. Here is a simple ceremony you can use too if this is not something that you have tried before. Personalize it as much as you like and add in any tools that you are familiar and comfortable with.
Meditate and allow the word to come to you.

You don’t have to be a seasoned meditator to do this. Just close your eyes, breathe from your body, get quiet and ask your higher self to reveal to you the word that your heart most wants to embrace.

Sit with the word and let it saturate your body.

Feel it seep into your cells and set your intention to allow it to live and breathe through and with you.

3) Light a candle with the intention that it will light the way for you.

Say a prayer of gratitude to Spirit for supporting you in this endeavor.

5) Write down on a piece of paper any blocks or apprehensions that could potentially get in your way.

Be really, really honest with yourself.

6) Ask yourself if you are truly willing to let them go.

(If you aren’t, find someone to support you in your healing or to help you process your limiting beliefs.)

7) Safely burn the paper and thank Spirit for helping you to release your blocks.

8) Repeat Step 2. Be loving with your word.

9) Put the word somewhere you will see it often.

Express gratitude to it and to yourself for taking this next step.

How do your resolutions grow? Feel free to share any tips or insights you have below.

Happy New Year!

Settling Into the Possibility of Me

I’ve never been much for resolutions although I do adore intentions. Because of this, when a friend of mine suggested choosing a word that I wished to explore in the upcoming year, I jumped at the opportunity. And it seemed to be just that: a big, fat, juicy opportunity. My word immediately bounced into my consciousness: Expansion.

I loved the way it slid off of my tongue and the charge that my energy body got from it. Honestly, it felt delicious…I savored the chance to roll it around in my mouth, to talk and share about it, and to begin the initial stages of exploration of it. At the time a lot of very rapid growth was unfolding for me and I felt a little high, to be honest, and “expansion” felt like taking another hit off of a joint.

I enjoyed taking my word to bed with me every night and waking up with it every morning for about two weeks, until the actual New Year rolled around. And now here we are, seven days into 2015, and I am noticing that the fear has crept in and settled around the fringes of my word. I feel disorganized and confused, hazy, apprehensive, and pensive. It’s like a withdrawal, only I am the only one that can provide myself with the next hit and I just feel like a hamster spinning a wheel.

I have a list of things to do that seem expansive to me: organize finances, restructure my time, write every day (oh to finally get this one right!), and keep up my meditation practice (to name a few). All of a sudden, my beautiful word has turned into a big, scary resolution, and I feel like I’m floundering.

What I’m noticing is that I’m running five miles ahead of where I actually am. My mind is in the “what-ifs” of the future and already judging me for not doing what I may or may not be doing a week, month, or year from now. Already, I’m allowing myself to assume that I’m not going to follow through or be able to live up to my idea of expansion.

A balloon doesn’t go from empty to inflated in one breath. It takes time and perseverance and slow and steady breathing. If I go too fast, I run the risk of exploding or running out of air. It’s in this moment that I need to step back, settle into my body, and ask myself what the hell is going on.

I’m restless to be where I want to end up. I actually see – and believe in – a whole lot of possibility for me, which is something completely new to me. And now that I see it I want to leap to it. I have to remember to get back to where I am, which is right here at the computer with a choice: Do I open a Word document and put my fingers on the keyboard and write, or do I open the Facebook tab and take a look at what is going on around me rather than within me?

Right now, I choose to write. I am taking this road because I want to feel like I accomplished something important to me today. I’m not even going to look at the message that just popped up on my screen. I may not feel that way later today, and certainly I can make time to view the world around me. Expansion can be aided by the external, but I do realize that my personal growth, my intention, my drive is accelerated by the burgeoning strength within me. I want to continue to fuel the flame that was recently stoked, despite the fact that growth has historically scared me. I want to be present to the little victories as well – by noticing that I was courageously honest with someone I am beginning to care deeply about, and the fact that I’m enrolled in a teleclass that is helping me open to the vast possibility of me. I’m excited about the woman I’m becoming and in order to remain charged it’s important to meet myself right where I am, which is right here at the table, with my fingers clicking on the keyboard, grateful to be honoring what I feel to be my higher purpose.