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4 The Power of Sacred Space

Recently my landlord asked if my workspace partner, hypnotherapist and crystal bowl facilitator, Becky Shanks, and I would be willing to move into a different office space in our building. When I told him that we loved our space, he said, “Well I hate to raise your rent and I can give you the bigger back space for what you pay here.”

I can see how to some people that may be beneficial, but to Becky and me…not so much.

Our office space is magical. And the reason that it’s magical is that we have cultivated love, ceremony, connection and healing in it over the past two years and another healer was there before us doing the same. You can feel the energy of it (and the smell of pure essential oils) before you even get to the door. Even people visiting the seamstress next door comment on it.

We could create sacred space in another location because the sacred comes from within us and follows our connection to Spirit and how we open our hearts to the honoring of the connection. But once you have something magical, the mystical aspects only continue to get stronger and stronger. (And so we’ll be staying where we are for now!)

Sacred space is a safe place, and over the years, I have learned the art of cultivating safe and sacred space. When this is in place, little and sometimes big, miracles are able to take place more readily; they become more accessible and we feel the Divine more fully.

For obvious reasons, one of which is my smaller frame, I can’t take my office with me everywhere I go. And so I’ve learned to cultivate safe and sacred space wherever I bring people together with the intention of healing and working with Spirit, whether that is through ceremony work or through teaching healing or intuitive development. All of this contributes to the power of my work.

But everyone can learn to create sacred space. We don’t need a special room or more objects to do so and it can be as large as a cathedral and as small as a chair or prayer mat.

Here are a few tips for creating this for yourself. The more you work with it and connect with the energy, the more powerful the space will become.

  • Create an altar.
    This can be as small as a few items or as large as an entire wall. Choose objects for your altar that hold spiritual significance for you. For mine, I use gemstones, gifts, articles from nature and more…Basically, things that represent love and that help me feel connected to Spirit.
  • Pray in the space and set your intention for it.
    I call in Spirit to support my healing, growth and understanding. I talk with my Spiritual posse and we all fill the place with love, grace and divine blessings. I connect into this energy often and connect my heart space into it every time I sit with it.
  • Meditate in it.
    Meditation is an opportunity to engage in divine dialogue. In prayer we send out our desires to Spirit, share from out heart and express gratitude; in meditation, we are able to listen and receive answers.
  • Engage in other types of spiritual activities in this space.
    Pull cards, use your pendulum, work with stones…Whatever calls to you. Every time you commune with Spirit, the space fills with more love. And the more love we are able to access and hold space for, the more powerful the space will become.
  • When appropriate, allow others to express reverence and love in this space. When you work with others in the space, the power is magnified.

Before I open any ceremony, I take time to bless the space and call in the spiritual team that most supports the intention that I’m holding. Keep any and all of this as simple as you want or make it as extravagant as you want. Intention and the love that you hold for your sacred space are the key here.

Over time you will feel more connected to your space and it will become more powerful for you. Here are a few examples of different altars to give you some ideas:

Temporary gratitude altar

Altar for a weekend immersion client

Simple single intention altar for FULLexpression

A small portion of my much larger altar

Outdoor altar for a bridal shower; working with the Brigid, the triple fire goddess

And if you would like for me to hold sacred and healing space for you, or take your healing and intuition to the next level, I am now offering one day and weekend healing and intuitive development immersions from my beloved Heart Space. If you are ready to dive into healing and opening your gifts, please contact me HERE so that we can chat about it. Each one is tailored specifically to what you want/need/feel to be right for you along with Spirit’s input.

I also offer ceremony work for gatherings and events. These sacred ceremonies can take place in your home or Heart Space if you are in Atlanta and I can travel to you in different cities. Ceremonies are a wonderful way to celebrate marriage, pregnancy, birthdays, friendships and more. If this interests you, let me know HERE.

Elicia Miller and I will be holding space for a small group of women to heal and access their true potential at our next Sacred Emotion Retreat in Costa Rica, September 17-24. There are still spaces and payment plans available. There is more information HERE.

“Janet Raftis has such profound healing energy, just her presence alone is transformative. She held such powerful space for me during my REVEAL retreat – it felt effortless to hear the truth that wanted to flow through me. Janet is tremendously gifted.”  

~ Meggan Watterson, author of Reveal, How to Love Yourself (and Sometimes Other People) and The Sutras of Unspeakable Joy

Much love,

Trusting the Voice Within

Learning to trust myself was a major process, fraught with ups and downs and doubts and fear.

I had never trusted myself and most of my life was spent trying to force myself to believe that everything was okay. When I couldn’t make a decision, I just stayed where I was: I was afraid I would make the wrong one.

Even after my intuition reawakened, I doubted myself. I could see the paths and decisions that would help others, but I could rarely see what would best support me.

I was living outside of my body, I was overwhelmed and confused, and I stayed small so that I wouldn’t have to make decisions that might create a sense of failure or pain in me. And as a result of this, I was allowing others to have dominion over my mood, my actions and my sense of self-worth. It was easier to let life lead me than it was to actively co-create my reality.

Everything had always taught me to not trust what I was feeling and to override what my body was telling me. I played soccer on sprained ankles and I cartwheeled on hurt wrists; crying was a sign of weakness and anger was to be suppressed. I could sense the emotions that everyone else was feeling ~ anger, sadness, anxiety ~ but I would always hear that they were “fine” or “good.” Hide, hide, hide who you truly are was the message all around me…And it confused me and taught me that what I was feeling must have been wrong…

I know this to be true about a lot of people that I work with as well…the inability to trust ourselves and our intuition is a product of years of denying the reality of our situation, feelings, life in general…

And it can be hard to come back from this…It can feel unstable and uncertain. It can be really difficult to move through the conditioning and doubt.

Learning to go back within…to access the wisdom of my body and my higher self changed everything for me. I’m able to intuitively handle situations that used to be stressful and overwhelming for me. I can make decisions that feel aligned and good to me. I TRUST that I’m taking care of my needs and I feel safer as a result.

And my psychic abilities soared as I began to trust my inner wisdom; it’s like having an internal system of checks and balances and so as I receive information from my upper chakras (Third Eye and Crown), I feel the insights land in my body more strongly and I’m able to better navigate the subtleties of what I’m perceiving.

A huge part of my healing journey was this key aspect of finally trusting myself. I still had to navigate trauma and stress and chronic symptoms, but the more connected I became to my inner voice, the more substantiated and grounded I became in the rest. I learned how to BE fully in my body and to listen to its rhythms, likes and desires. I also began to acknowledge, feel and respect its no’s…

My inner voice always guides me with heart and the interest of my best and highest good…And accessing and trusting that is a pure treasure that never leads me astray.

P.S. If this resonates with you, I can help you! Check out my Activate Your Superpowers class HERE.

Living in Your “YES!”


For those of us who are sensitive, boundaries can mean tricky business…

An effective early step in working with boundaries* is to begin to understand our own energetic and physical bodies and what feels good to us. Most empaths, sensitives and people who have experienced trauma have developed an energy pattern that is quite literally out-of-body.

We do this to achieve a perceived sense of safety, but what happens is that we lose the ability to discern what is ours and what isn’t ours and where we end and others begin. We become confused over what feels good and right to us and what compromises us in some way. We also become uncertain as to what is our responsibility and what isn’t (other by-products of being out-of-body include overwhelm, anxiety, confusion, ungroundedness and more).

Here is a simple body scan exercise that can help you to get started. I love this exercise and use some variation of it almost every day for myself. Over time, using this and other techniques, I’ve been able to create a very strong sense of self ~ one that enables me to be fully present in my body, empowered in my empathy and intuition, and capable of maintaining fluid boundaries that honor my true needs and all of those I’m in relationship with. Through this work, I’ve been able to know and honor my true feelings.

  • Take a moment to get settled and quiet in a chair or lying down on your back with your stomach, solar plexus and heart centers open.
  • Turn your attention to your breath. On your in-breath, feel your belly rise and expand. Let your breath begin in your stomach and then rise through your diaphragm and then lungs.
  • Allow your out-breath to be at least as long as your in-breath and feel your tummy fall as you release and let go.
  • Do about 10 rounds of this breathing.
  • Next, turn your attention to your body. This type of breathing connects you back into your core and will help you to feel more embodied immediately. (This is great to do anytime you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed.)
  • Start at your toes and move your way up, just noticing and feeling your body. If any judgments arise, gently release them and return to the breath and the scan.
  • When you feel calm and centered, ask your body to show you what “yes” feels like. This may come as a sense of expansion, a smile, an opening of the heart or in another way that feels good to you. If it doesn’t come immediately, that is okay. Just breathe and stay centered. You may need to give it a few minutes or try again at a later time. For many of us, being fully embodied is a new experience and we may need to have space to explore it further before understanding it fully.
  • After you have your affirmative response, ask your body to show you “no.” My body shows me this by constricting in the heart center. Some feel it in their belly or head. Any of the responses can shift and change as well, though the quality of them will tend to remain the same.
  • You can also ask your body to show you a neutral response, as oftentimes that is the case as in a situation like this: “How would an apple for a snack be for me?” If you have no sensitivities to an apple, it may show up in a neutral, if-you-want-it sort of way.
  • When you are finished, turn back into your breath and send thoughts of gratitude to your body for supporting you.

With practice, understanding your authentic, full-bodied “YES!” will become second nature and you will be able to discern which people, places and situations do and don’t feel good to you. From there, you can begin the process of living from a space of honoring that yes and aligning with it more consistently.  Ultimately, that YES! will open new doors of exploration and freedom to you.

With much love!

*Boundaries are complex. The activity above is a great place to start and there are many tools that can help you to begin shifting them. Fully understanding them may require you to undergo deep, emotional clearing work, especially if there is trauma. If there are core trauma wounds present, I recommend working with Elicia Miller to help clear them in conjunction with resetting your energy field and working with tools such as the one above.

Superpowers Activate!

For most of my life, I knew I was sensitive.

Throughout those years, I equated sensitivity with weakness, pain, overwhelm, anxiety and confusion. I hated being sensitive, and I did my best to mask it and push it down. I did whatever I could to NOT be sensitive. I wanted to be tough, thick-skinned, able to hang with the boys.

Because of this, I denied my authentic self pretty regularly. In fact, I felt a lot of shame around who I was. I acted like I didn’t care and I put on a strong front, while inside I shrank further and further away from myself.

Feeling all the stuff around me caused me to accept blame that wasn’t mine to take on, it led me to a (very!) poor understanding of boundaries and it caused me to live in fear and confusion and to shut down and numb out.

I didn’t understand people or my environment and I had a poor ability to act in alignment with my integrity. “No” was nearly impossible to say (and even more so after being raped) because I didn’t want to “hurt” the other person and then feel responsible for their pain. I just gave in, kept the peace, all the while holding up the façade that all was well. There was as little boat rocking as possible in my seemingly fragile world.

I had a strong knowing of what all the people around me were feeling and yet they told me that they were fine. “Negative” emotions were deemed inappropriate and yet I could feel them all around me. It didn’t make any sense to me. And so I constantly thought of myself as wrong. I doubted myself, my instincts, and my ability to make sound decisions.

It was just too much. So I shut down.

I turned myself off for about 20 years. And during those two decades, I struggled with addiction, anxiety, insomnia, perfectionism, low self-esteem, overwhelm and more. I was a mess.

When I started doing healing work, shortly after my son was born, my intuitive gifts opened up again. It was like someone had ripped a Band-Aid off of me and all of a sudden, I could feel all the pain again. Every last little nerve ending was exposed. It was nearly crushing and I had no idea how to handle it.

It exacerbated problems with my health (empaths often struggle with candida, auto-immune disorders, IBS and more), it affected my relationships and it caused me to experience extreme exhaustion.

I could only do a little bit of healing work per week because I was taking on the stuff of everyone and then carrying it around with me, a little pack mule of other people’s emotions, illness and pain.

I tried cord cutting, bubbles, sage, crystals and more. They helped, but they didn’t solve the problem. My intuition was continuing to open and I still didn’t have the tools to truly help me do it safely. I was struggling and disempowered on my path.

Until I started to receive very clear messages on how to create a permanent shift in my field…information on how to get back into my body and stay there ~ truly scary stuff for an empath!

But the thing is: Once I got safely back into my body, it actually felt so good to be there that I didn’t want to leave it anymore. I could feel other people’s stuff and not take it on!

I had been given tools that created a permanent and empowering shift for me. My sensitivities had turned into superpowers! And once that happened…Wow! They opened even more.

(Note: If you have experienced trauma or have repressed emotions from childhood, I recommend working with my colleague, Elicia Miller. Core emotional healing and inner child work are essential tools as well.)

Most of my clients come to me overwhelmed and confused; I see this happening on a very large scale right now. And so I am feeling called to share these insights and teachings with others. I passionately feel that if we can understand how to go within and embody ourselves fully and strongly ~ if we can trust ourselves from this place of deep connection ~ then our empathy can become one of our greatest gifts and we can open up our intuition in a way that empowers us to be able to positively affect the lives of others. I’ve experienced it myself and seen it work in others as well.


I have created a live, online class in which we harness the power of the group for even more connection and activation. In this course, you receive:

  • Four live hour-long group sessions
  • Two group healing/activations (live and recorded to be downloaded and kept)
  • Two downloadable meditations
  • Downloadable content
  • Access to a private Facebook group where you can share, practice with one another and receive support from me

We will cover:

  • Feeling Empowered, not Overwhelmed: How to stop feeling tired, drained, anxious, and overly-sensitive in the world
  • Trusting Your Inner Guidance: How to tune into your higher wisdom and know the difference between fear and your intuition
  • Communicating with Your Guides: How to connect and build a relationship with your spirit team
  • Tune Into Your Psychic Senses: How to identify and cultivate the psychic senses of knowing, hearing, feeling, and seeing

This class portions of this course will be held on July 7, 21 & 28 and August 4 from 4:00-5:00 EDT.

For more information about Activate Your Superpowers: Four Ways to Access Your Higher Self, Your Guides and Spirit to Make Life Easier and Have Way More Fun, click HERE.

Being sensitive doesn’t have to be hard. In fact, it can be a blessing.

Much love!